Musings

Not every friend is a friend

large (56).jpgSometimes, we need a different interpretation of our lives or relationships. Sometimes, its good to listen to what someone else thinks. Its only normal that sometimes we don’t see the big picture, and someone needs to tell us, “Hey, that’s not ok. You deserve better.” Sometimes we need to hear that we are worthy and sometimes we also need to hear when we aren’t living up to our own worthiness.

But it is a double-edged sword. The truth is, regardless of how we feel, some of those around us do not necessarily have our best interests at heart. I think deep down we know that. We know when someone isn’t encouraging us to be better, but rather enticing us to choose darkness. We know when someone hasn’t been there for us consistently. We know when someone’s actions show us that their words are hollow, they no longer hold meaning.

large (53)Not everyone is good for you. Not every friendship should last. Not every person who tells you that they will be there for you is telling the truth. Some people are only around for the good times; some people will never pick up the pieces with you. And maybe that’s ok. But promise yourself this one thing: Stop listening to those around you who don’t know your heart and don’t understand your soul.

It is the surest way to losing yourself and your integrity, with no sure way back. Because you will wish for a time where you didn’t feel like everything around you has collapsed.

large (52)Don’t let those people call themselves friends. When someone shows you their true colours, do not try and repaint them. Do not let anyone tell you that the dreams you have aren’t cool enough; don’t let them diminish the life you have built. Don’t let them tell you that you’re too young to love so much, and that you’re too broken and cannot be fixed. Don’t let them lie to you. Don’t let them make you feel like you can never see the light again. Don’t choose the darkness because the light scares you. Don’t choose the darkness because it makes you feel less alone. Darkness is still darkness. Open up your own eyes and decide for yourself. Don’t let them walk in and out of your life questioning your choices and your happiness. Don’t let anyone tell you that your choice to move on with your life is a bad one. We all need to grow and better ourselves don’t feel guilty for that. Don’t let the world tell you that you aren’t good enough, that you shouldn’t want what you want.

Make sure when you are drifting off to sleep that you are proud of who you are and how far you have come. Make sure that the choices you make are in lilarge (55)ne with what you want out of life, and not because someone told you to make them. To be who you are is the greatest gift, don’t let someone hold the reins to your life. A good friend knows what is important to you, and not only respects it, but encourages you to follow it.

The most important voice in your head should be your own. When the silence sets in, make sure that voice is proud of you.

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